REFRAME #7: BELIEVE. DON’T BLAME.
“she should have made better choices” Believe. Don’t blame
Think about a time when you had to take a really big risk and share something deeply important with someone else who you loved and/or trusted. What causes our anxiety or hesitation in wanting to initially share? Are they going to believe me? Are they going to have my back?
Now think about how important this is for someone who is about to share with you that they were a victim of some form of interpersonal violence. In that moment, more than anything, they need your support and for you to believe their truth. When someone shares that they are the victim of any other crime, we rarely, if ever, ask what that person did to cause it. So it’s time to REFRAME how we support survivors of interpersonal violence and honor their truth.