REFRAME #5: CONTROL ISN’T LOVE.
“jealousy is so romantic” CONTROL ISN’T LOVE
Wanting to spend a lot of time with the person you are in a relationship with is a very normal and exciting feeling. What’s not ok, is when you feel the need to constantly check in with them via text and feel like you have the right to know where they are at every moment of the day.
It’s also not a healthy relationship if you try to control who your partner is friends with, or how much time they want to spend with family. Loving someone means that you develop an open and trusting relationship with your partner. That you enjoy time together. That you are supportive of each other and celebrate their accomplishments, not resent them.
It’s time to REFRAME what a healthy relationship looks like, it’s not about power and control. It’s about self-agency, support and openness.